Are you avoiding dating or being in a relationship because of your IBS?
Are you afraid that you are turning off your boyfriend/ girlfriend/spouse with your symptoms?
I mean, even if he/she says it’s no big deal, are you afraid that they might be thinking and fantasizing about being with someone else?
Like it or not, this is probably the truth.
Think about it: with IBS-D you probably avoid sex more times than not because you’re having a flair up or a ‘bad day’ …
And who wants to have sex when they’re glued to the toilet or concerned they might not make it to the bathroom in time during love making.
And if you have IBS-C, let’s get real … being bloated/constipated and having abdominal pain definitely isn’t going to put you in ‘the mood’.
And who wants to have sex when their stomach is distended from bloating and they are concerned they might have severe gas during love making.
Talk about ruining ‘the mood’ …
If you have IBS, stop lying to yourself that your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse ‘understands’ and that they won’t ever leave you.
I wish this wasn’t the case …
But, cheating is a common occurrence with couples where IBS symptoms are present.
You better believe your partner is getting their needs met somewhere else if you both aren’t engaging in frequent and fulfilling sex. If not with someone physically, they are cheating in their heads with fantasizing about other women/men, watching pornography, engaging in masturbation etc …
Countless relationships – even the strong ones – have even ended because one of the two individuals was battling IBS.
World Renown relationship therapist Esther Perel has written extensively on how when an individual experiences a health condition, the loving partner will usually take the stance of a caregiver: giving love and support, listening and being understanding of their partner whose suffering in their health.
She then explains that when this common occurrence happens in a relationship, this usually leads to a loss of desire. And loss of desire leans to that partner looking elsewhere to get their needs met.
Is this really what you want? Do you want to end up being alone?
Or, worse …
Staying in a relationship that unfulfilling and you know your partner is unfaithful to you?
Stop letting this disease ruin your life. Seriously.
Enough is enough.
You deserve SO MUCH BETTER than this.
Stop letting IBS RUIN your LIFE. Take back the control and have the sex life you want and deserve.
What you need to do is Create a Strategy.